102 Words of Affirmation Every Wife Wants to Hear {With Free Printable}

102 Words of Affirmation Every Wife Wants to Hear {With Free Printable}
November 25, 2013 Matthew L. Jacobson

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A while back I was speaking and asked for a show of hands, “How many of the wives have had too much affirmation over the past month?” Laughter broke out across the room. No, haven’t had too much of that.

If Lisa is any indication, women often have the feeling that life is coming at them with the speed of a fighter jet and the chaos of a riot. Add to this the voices everywhere around them saying in subtle and not so subtle ways that the job they’re doing isn’t quite up to the mark. Wives often have the nagging feeling that they just don’t measure up.

Let’s drown out those voices with the applause of affirmation – words of beauty, truth, and love that every wife wants to hear, but also needs to hear often. Here are 102 to help you get started.

1) You give a lot, and I appreciate how much you give.

2) You are beautiful.

3) You make me want to be a better man.

4) Thanks for your faithfulness to our family.

5) You are a godly woman.

6) I’ve learned a lot from you.

7) I’ve seen you grow so much.

8) I like spending time with you.

9) You’re fun to be with.

10) What a fantastic meal!

11) You make wonderful things.

12) Thanks for your diligence in running this house.

13) Our kids are so fortunate to have you as their mother.

14) God wanted me to be happy . . . that’s why He made you my wife.

15) You bring out the best in me.

16) You are a fantastic person.

17) You are a deep river.

18) You’re as beautiful to me as the day we married.

19) My favorite place to be is with you.

20) I wouldn’t be half the man I am without you.

21) You make loving fun.

22) You complete me.

23) God said, “It’s not good for a man to be alone.” It’s sure good to be with you!

24) When I’m gone this week, just remember, home is where my heart is.

25) You are my world.

26) The Bible tells men: Love your wife like Christ loves the Church . . . I like my job!

27) I like going out with you . . . what are you doing tonight?

28) The laundry never stops coming . . . and you never quit. You’re amazing and, I really appreciate it.

29) You are a hard worker.

30) You’re so smart.

31) I value your insight.

32) You have a lot to offer.

33) I really admire your inner strength

34) I’m glad our kids have (will have) such an excellent role model.

35) You are (will be) an amazing mother.

36) You know you’re my best friend, don’t you?

37) I don’t know what I would do without you.

38) You make me a happy man.

39) I’m amazed at the women you’ve become.

40) You accomplish a lot.

41) You are so thoughtful.

42) Thank you for respecting me.

43) I’m grateful I can trust you with anything.

44) I have total confidence in you.

45) I’m proud to be your husband.

46) God knew what I needed. That’s why He brought us together.

47) I respect the woman you are.

48) My hat’s off to you!

49) You’ve got great ideas.

50) I married up!

51) I rely on your intuition.

52) You’re the finest woman on the planet!

53) I can face anything with you by my side.

54) I married a winner!

55) Our kids love (are going to love) you so much.

56) You are the best woman I know.

57) I don’t deserve you . . . but, I’m glad you’re mine!

58) I want to grow old with you.

59) Thank you for being so good to me.

60) You’re an awesome lover.

61) I don’t need anything else – just you.

62) I only have eyes for you.

63) I’ll always be faithful to you.

64) You never have to wonder where I am.

65) Thank you for standing by me.

66) I really appreciate your loyalty.

67) You are a great cook/chef.

68) You’re so creative.

69) I know you strive to please me . . . and believe me, you’re successful!

70) I love what you make.

71) You are one talented woman!

72) You never stop giving.

73) You look fabulous in that outfit!

74) You make me look good!

75) When you walked into the room, you took my breath away.

76) You are an excellent wife and I’m a blessed man.

77) You bring me joy.

78) I love the home that you’ve created.

79) You work hard to make things wonderful.

80) The Song of Solomon has nothing on you!

81) I’m a better man because of you.

82) You are a unique person.

83) I’m glad I married you!

84) You’ll always have my heart.

85) Your heart is safe with me.

86) God knew exactly what I needed in a woman.

87) You are God’s perfect choice for me.

88) I wouldn’t want any other life than the one I am living with you.

89) You are my dream girl.

90) You are a beautiful person, inside and out.

91) You’ve got what it takes to make things happen.

92) You impress me, you really do!

93) You are a woman of integrity.

94) I admire you.

95) I’m proud of how you handled situations like that.

96) You’re no pushover. I love your spine of steel.

97) You are a considerate person, of me, and of everyone else.

98) You’re one in a million . . . and you’re mine!

99) I’m a rich man because you are my wife.

100) I’d be happy with you anywhere!

101) You make it all worth while. I wouldn’t want it any other way.

102) I’ll love you forever.

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68 Comments

  1. Carl S 4 weeks ago

    I read your list of 102 things a woman needs to hear. I’ve also read some of the replys left by women. I am so very sorry for them: When i first saw my wife it was as if i was struck by lightning! My friends decided to take me out for some fun… We had dinner & then took me to a riverboat casino (i detest gambling) we were in the bar waiting for the boat to dock. Sonny was sitting next to me chatting with her friends. I spoke just a couple words but she made a huge impression with just her smile. Later on the boat i was just watching people when i saw her again at a slot machine. I managed to screw up enough couragr to talk to her and asked for her ph number. She told me where she worked & ph number. The very next day i went to where she worked with 18 red roses and invited her for some coffee. She declined but i perserved and 6 months later we went out on a real date. After that we became a loving couple. EVERY single day I told her i loved her, that she was beautiful, that i was the luckiest man in the world, that i was a better man, lover, father because of her. After a long hard day working i would come home and help with washing the dishes so we would have more quality time together. We traveled the world and frequently invited her sister to join us. We invited her newly wed niece & husband to live with us for 3 years until they could make their own way. We then did the same for her nephew too..We became inseparable, and even when she went home to Korea we still spoke to everyday. Almost everyday was like we were on our honeymoon. Several times per month I’d surprise her w flowers or jewelry. Even after 23 years i opened the doors for her, whether driving or simply walking we held hands. Our love making
    was ALWAYS spectacular like 4th of July.
    Sonny was for me PERFECT IN EVERY WAY! She created a absolutely beautiful home and life together. And i constantly praised her both privately and publically. I gave her massages EVERY NIGHT for 20+ years. If she was hurting i would stay up all night to care for her and then go to work. Sonny was a small woman 4’10” 110 lbs at 60 years old she could still do a FULL split. Best was her smile wbicj could out shine the sun. 2 1/2 years after i retired we were going to purchase a RV and travel the US for a full year. That is when we received the news her cough/ bronchitis was in fact lung cancer. My only job then was to care for her, 6 months later I cared for any of her personal requirements. Friends n family told me how faithful and dedicated i was. No one truely understood that caring for Sonny was never a chore or obligation… it was an honor and privilege for me. 3 months later i lost my beloved angel and my life.
    Years earlier i had told her that greatest goal i coud achievement was to love her more deeply and completely than anyone else in the whole world. She told me that i had accomplished my goal. Indeed i was the lucky one. I often told her i rather live in a dirt floor shack with her than in the largest gold plated palace with anyone else.
    I never thought it was possible to love anyone as much as i still love her.

    Sorry to be long winded but men and women show your love every single day to your partner. Nothing else is as important or rewarding

    • Author

      Carl, what a beautiful testimony, what an amazing example for other, what an important exhortation for everyone. Thank you for sharing. God bless you.

      To help men who desire to have a marriage like Carl’s, I wrote two books for men who desire to love their wives well. You can check them out here – They’re entitled Marriage Wisdom for Him . . . and 100 Ways To Love Your Wife https://shop.faithfulman.com

  2. Felecia 2 months ago

    Okay, please forgive me…I found what I was looking for! If it were a snake it would have bit me…right in the face. LOL.

    I happened upon your website. Nice!

    Thank you.
    Feleca

  3. Sophie 5 months ago

    Just found your website. It will take some time to look in to it but its a blessing already.
    Thanks.

  4. Carolyn 9 months ago

    It looks like the link for the printable list of words no longer works. I love this list though!

  5. Johnny 1 year ago

    thank you my wife and i love your site. Please sent us some articles.

  6. Keith 1 year ago

    None of your links work for “Words of Affirmation every…”

  7. Rae 1 year ago

    What I wouldn’t give to hear any one of those statements. I don’t even get the run-of-the-mill “I love you”, but he sure is quick to criticize or let me know when he is unsatisfied. ?

  8. Judah 1 year ago

    Incredible post!

  9. Miranda 1 year ago

    You guys look very happy. I admire your teamwork! Thank you for sharing.

    Stay blessed.

    Sincerely,

    Miranda

  10. braulio rodriguez 2 years ago

    Would the 102 words of affirmation be available in a poster to purchase? For wife, husband, and children?

  11. Mike 2 years ago

    I say quite a few of these on a regular basis. Do you happen to have a way to get my wife to believe it?

  12. Richard Massafra 2 years ago

    That is a keeper. I downloaded it.

    Thanks for your website. God bless.

  13. Sathya Kumar hb 2 years ago

    I love this 102 words itsgod gift wives itrust you my wife for ever and ever

  14. Jay Horton 2 years ago

    Thank you for your care in sharing loving and balanced guidelines for how we can show appreciation and love our family members more soundly and with positive intention. Many thanks for your writing ministry.

  15. Elissa 2 years ago

    Is no one else concerned by the fact that both this, and the 103 words of affirmation for your husband article, use very sexist language? Why do cleaning, food, and laundry only appear on the women’s list? Why are men the only ones praised for being great providers?? I’m just saying, if someone compliments my laundry skills, I’m going to ask them what century they’re from.

    • Matthew Jacobson 2 years ago

      Different families divide up the responsibilities of running a home well differently. The point isn’t to compliment skills but, rather, to express genuine appreciation for the efforts made. There are probably few to whom all 100 items apply. It’s the principle, not the specifics, necessarily. Hopefully some on the list are apropos to your experience.

  16. Mr bean 3 years ago

    This is really useful thanks a lot may god bless u wid al d happiness…!!! 🙂

  17. Marinda B. 3 years ago

    20 years ago, I left my husband because I was more afraid to stay than to go. After being married to my 2nd husband for about a year, I was in despair of my marriage. in a last-ditch effort to save it, I tried one last thing, that really I knew I should have been doing all along(and in my 1st marriage too). That thing was prayer, not a Pharisee-type prayer, “Change him,” but rather, “Let me be what he needs me to be.” If it were for him, I’d have knelt in front of him every night. but it wasn’t for him; it was about me. within a week I was hooked. I couldn’t go to sleep unless I prayed. I’d flop around for a couple of hours if I forgot, then when I remembered, I’d go right to sleep. it worked. we’re parents of a 10-year-old and have been married 15 years. (the shift key on my computer has just gone on the blink. [?])

  18. Warren Baldwin 3 years ago

    Very interesting and helpful list. Thanks for posting.

    A comment to Jennifer about her husband thinking she should be secure enough to not need words of affirmation … In thinking about this from a male perspective, My guess is that your husband may not be secure enough to give those words. He needs them himself. it might work best to give him some words of encouragement and hope/pray over time they begin to work in him.

    • lucy gon 3 years ago

      My husband of 18 yrs is a wonderful person, good father, but horrible husband.
      In all of the 18 years of marriage, i have NEVER heard him say that I am beautiful and it pains me (I think I am physically attractive…i’ve heard it from others before).
      Once, He bought me a vaccum cleaner for my birthday and it crushed me.
      On a romantic cruise he took his computer and did work. I’m lonely in my marriage. I don’t feel like a desirable woman when I’m with him. When we’ve argued in the past, I’ve told him all these things, but nothing has changed. I was very warm and attentive to him, writing love notes for years when we were first married, made special dinners, everything, then I stopped (PROBABLY AFTER ABOUT 7 YRS OF MARRIAGE) when i realized it was all a one way relationship. I want a divorce based on loneliness, and when I think about it, I feel bad (guilty)for feeling this way, but I am in so much pain over this. I always thought marriages should break up for serious things like infidelity (maybe he is cheating, who knows) Is this a ground for divorce? Does anyone else feel guilty for wanting a divorce for being lonely & UNDESIRABLE AS A WOMAN in a marriage?
      My only concern is I worry about my kids if I leave him. They are still small.

      • Matthew Jacobson 3 years ago

        Lisa and I are always so sorry for any spouse who has to live as you are living – without the love and affirmation that you were created to receive. Your desires to quit the marriage are by no means unique. Many women feel the same: unloved and wanting a way out. From a biblical perspective, your husband is walking in abject sin. A Christian wife must be a cherished woman if the Christian man is going to walk in obedience to the express commands of Scripture. If you are believers, you must make yourselves accountable to the leadership in the local Church (this presupposes that you are in a Fellowship that is godly/wise/mature/biblical). Christian marriage is not a private affair. We are to be accountable to each other, but also to those with whom we walk out our life of faith.

        It is commendable that you would consider how your decisions will affect your children. Much has been written about how divorce severely impacts children. But, you said this was “your only concern”. May I suggest that your first concern should be what God would have you to do?

        Now some difficult questions: Does God ever ask us to walk through difficult circumstances? Job, Steven being stoned after doing everything right, and Paul & Silas being whipped and imprisoned come to mind.

        Not being involved with the two of you, and not knowing all the specifics, I wouldn’t presume to make strong statements about what is right in this situation. I only offer these thoughts for your consideration. One thing is certain, God loves you, knows your deepest sorrows, and invites you to draw near to Him. James 4:8

      • Joseph 2 years ago

        Lucy,

        My wife and I are working through a very rough patch in our marriage. When I acted in a similar fashion of not paying enough attention to her or expressing my love it was because of the constant nagging and criticisms. It goes both ways. We started seeing a marriage counselor and read a book with insights into how to recognize and break the patterns of behavior the are detrimental to our relationship. Create a safe environment for honest and open sharing of feelings and concerns. When I learned that my wife was unhappy because of me and considered leaving me I felt like the biggest scum bag that ever existed. It’s now up to me to win her love again. We learned how to date again, how to openly share our feelings and concerns. If she hadn’t have told me how she felt and what she expected of me, I would have never known until it was too late.

      • Miranda 1 year ago

        I actually did leave my husband for the same reasons. I still feel bad from time to time for him, not me. I learned some people are insecure and raised differently. Try counseling. However, I have recently found someone special and took it as a learning experience. Please read the five love languages book together. Best of luck!!!

  19. Michaele Fergusson 4 years ago

    I really dont like no 50. It makes me feel like I married below me, when my husband says it. Not a good feeling because its not true.

    • Dayan 3 years ago

      You could always respond that you also married up – making you equal in each other’s eyes – putting you in very good company 🙂 – we need to stop focusing on the negative.

  20. sigh 4 years ago

    “14) God wanted me to be happy . . . that’s why He made you my wife.”

    Does God want us to be happy? I think in Christianity today that is the main message people hear and desire to hear. Unfortunately that is NOT God’s number one priority, to make us happy.

    God desires that we act justly and to love mercy and to walk humbly with your God, that we strive to be holy, honor Him, that we fear him, love him and love others.

    I Peter 1:16
    Matthew 22:37-40
    Micah 6:8
    Prov 1:7

    Seeking to have joy (I Thessalonians 5:16) in our lives is not the same as happiness.

    • MJAdmin 4 years ago

      Dear “Sigh” you don’t sound very happy. And, you missed a few scriptures if you desire to truly cover this topic thoroughly – which would be inappropriate here, given the space constraints, wouldn’t it? #14 isn’t a theological argument regarding the semantical nuances between joy and happiness. It’s a simple recognition that we have a good Father Who knows how to give good gifts, designed to capture the essence of a fleeting moment in one’s day. I believe you mean well but let’s save our theological firepower for errant teaching. Incidentally, I think Solomon was pretty happy in the Song of Songs.

  21. Derek Howell 4 years ago

    I recently cheated on my wife. Although I still love her it seems all the words of affirmation I gave to her don’t work. I sometimes cook for us both but she feels as though telling me how my meal tasted isn’t something important. Some if not all the of why I cheated is partly her fault her lack of support when I needed her and her lack of appreciation all lead to my infidelity. I’ve talked to her time and time again but she doesn’t get it. What do I do????

    • MJAdmin 4 years ago

      Derek, the only advise I have is for a Christian man. Presuming this describes you, you have only one path: Remain faithful to God (Be ye holy, as I am holy) and remain faithful to your wife, both physically, and in the corners of your mind, never entertaining sin. Ask God to speak His Truth to your heart and to the heart of your wife. Don’t focus on what your wife needs to do. It’s God’s job to change people, not yours. You must walk in righteousness, truth, and purity, regardless of what your wife does. It’s so much easier if one’s spouse is responding but, even if she isn’t, while temptation is increased, your responsibility remains the same. God has said in His Word that He always provides a way to escape temptation. You will also want to seek out a local fellowship of true, Bible believing, faithful Christians. Make yourselves accountable to others and ask God to do His refining work in your hearts. I don’t know God’s path for you, except to say that the true disciple of Jesus Christ walks in the desire to please him – If you love me you will keep my commandments, He said. If you have truly repented of your sin (been contrite before God and before your wife, asking to be forgiven) your path is to draw near to God. Will your wife yield her heart to you? Who knows? Maybe, maybe not. You violated her with your sexual sin. She had the right, before God, to divorce you but didn’t. Her change of heart will follow God convicting her, not from your efforts. Here’s the greater question: Will you remain pure and faithful to her and to God, regardless of the path before you . . . for better or for worse? Draw near to God and He will draw near to you.

    • Beryl 4 years ago

      Sorry to tell you this, but you show the wrong attitude about your wife and your marriage. Your wife does not deserve you cheating on her. You are the one who sinned, not your wife. This is something that men have got to stop doing, and women have got to stop allowing men and gullible women, to blame placed on us. Even those of us who are Christian women, know we must forgive the sinful nature of cheaters, but we still must not accept the blame..
      Just because a woman does not brag and exalt her husband, does not give him license to cheat.
      Be careful husbands of the world, women are beginning to follow your cheating practice.

      Lastly, I am disappointed that the writers did not help make it clear that men should not blame their wives and wives definitely must not allow the blame. Speak up wives. Speak up ,because men and writers will not support us.

  22. Deb 4 years ago

    Do you have a website that I can email you. I really have a marriage question and my heart is broken. I would love to have someone to help me know what to do. Please let me know where I can answers anonymously. Thanks

    • MJAdmin 4 years ago

      You may private message me on Facebook (matthewljacobson) and, while it’s not possible for me to become involved, I’m happy to offer a biblical answer to your question. It’s best if you find a local fellowship lead by elders and deacons who know the Word and are filled with the Spirit.

  23. Jaclyn Poulsen 4 years ago

    Just one life, will soon be passed. Only what’s done for Christ will last.

  24. Jaclyn Poulsen 4 years ago

    I stumbled unto your wife’s writing of Christ-centred marriage advice and have been eager to give her exhortation. Both her and you are using a God given talent to advise us in such important issues. Congratulations on your marriage, children, job, and thank you for the time you both invest in writing such quality, life applicable posts. :^) God bless. Ps, don’t you absolutely love The Lord?!? I have been saved for 9 months. Life has a point when you live for The Lord. He brought my dear into my life 10 months ago and we are getting married this year. The Lord knows just what we need when we need it. Praise The Lord.

    • MJAdmin 4 years ago

      We are so excited for you both! Congratulations and may God bless you as you continue to seek Him!

  25. Katherine 4 years ago

    My partner says “You never fail…” He means this is many ways such as I never fail to surprise, please, amaze, excite etc. It’s the sweetest thing I’ve ever been told and I love it ♥
    Thanks for the list…

  26. Jennifer 4 years ago

    Just out of curiosity, what happened to #100?

    • MJAdmin 4 years ago

      Just out of curiosity, I’d love to know myself! Thanks for the catch! We’ll get that remedied.

  27. Colleen 4 years ago

    Love this! Thank you for posting! This is my Love language! I’ve been married 24 years & over the years this has been a challenge for my husband to express words of affirmation out loud to me. I love the list and I’m passing this along to my husband who will greatly appreciate this list of ideas! Even the simple words as “What a fantastic meal honey” makes all the differences……just last night I made homemade chili and my teenagers even expressed out loud “Great meal mom, loved it” Totally made it worth all my time and effort in making a meal ( P.S. Dinner’s are always a challenge for me and time consuming due to the fact my son is diabetic, type 1 and everything I make has to be from scratch) So “Thank you” so much for this list of ideas!!

  28. Lizette 4 years ago

    I was going to send this list to hubby (tongue-in-cheek) before I read it. Then, after reading it, I realized that I couldn’t, because he says most of them to me in a typical week already…

    The only thing I can add to this, is that actions speak louder than words. While flattery (or encouragement / affirmation) will get you everywhere, it’s important to show you mean it too. Whenever I’m feeling a bit blue and tell my hubby he “never” tells me he loves me, he reminds me that he shows it by waiting on me by catering to my every whim, which he does a tremendous job of.

    If your wife is not who you want her to be, you can love her better. Love heals.

    • Evie 3 years ago

      While this may be true for some, others, like myself, have te primary love language of words of affirmation. To us, “showing” is nothing compared to ” hearing”.

  29. Tammy 4 years ago

    Love this! Do you by any chance have a list of words of affirmation a husband wants to hear? Thank you for your words of wisdom. I pray continued blessings on your marriage.

    • MJAdmin 4 years ago

      yes I do! stay tuned!

  30. jennifer 4 years ago

    What can a woman do when her husband doesn’t gib e words of affirmation or encouragement because he believes that she should be secure enough in herself to not need it? Thank you.

    • MJAdmin 4 years ago

      I can only tell you how Lisa would respond. She would approach me and tell me what she needs . . . and what she would like. She would start by asking me what I need and would like in this same area. Everyone is different but communicating how you feel and what you would like with a non-accusing approach is a great place to start.

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