Many wives feel they must be inadequate or are doing something wrong in bed because despite making themselves available to their husbands he keeps struggling with porn/wandering eyes/lustful thoughts/sexual discontent . . . etc., etc. It’s not just discouraging. It’s demoralizing and destructive, robbing the joy and sapping the life right out of marriage.
Maybe the answer is to try harder . . . so, you try harder . . . make yourself more available, but nothing works. The problem remains, gets worse even, until you just give up, altogether.
Is this the life God calls the Christian man to? A life of singing worship songs on Sunday peppered by repeated sexual sin throughout the week?
And, isn’t it great when you can blame someone else for the sin you’ve been committing? Helps ease the conscience, doesn’t it? “Hey, my wife is a little cold. What am I supposed to do?” “She isn’t meeting my needs, so I had to do something.” Only one problem with that thinking: Another person is never responsible for the sin you choose to commit.
Regular sex, more sex, better sex, will never solve the “porn problem” the “lust problem” or the “wandering eyes” problem because, although sex is great, it’s not a cure for sin.
If you don’t know the truth, you can’t walk in it. That’s why I always say, “If you believe wrong, you’ll never live strong.” Most men believe they are destined to sin and will never triumph over sin in their own lives because it can’t be done.
If this is what you believe, then score one for the Enemy! This is a complete lie from the pit of hell, yet many Christian men believe it and many churches teach it. The truth is, there is real hope, real victory, real power and triumph to be won by knowing the Word and doing what it says!
This is why I’m teaching the FREEDOM course and invite you to join me! Are you tired of the constant cycle of confession, failure, confession, failure? Are you ready to do battle and have real, lasting victory in the area of sexual purity? A faithful husband, it’s every wife’s dream.
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Matt Jacobson is a biblical marriage coach, founder of FaithfulMan.com a biblical marriage, parenting, and discipleship ministry providing written and audio teaching, as well as couples marriage coaching. He is also the creator of FREEDOM Course, an 8 session class, including a workbook, where he teaches men the biblical path to finding total victory from pornography and sexual sin. He is the co-host (with his wife, Lisa) of Faithful Life Podcast and is author of the bestseller, 100 Ways to Love Your Wife. Matt is pastor of Cline Falls Bible Fellowship and is married to Lisa, founder of Club31Women.com (they have 8 kids!).