Every person has one – that internal message center that speaks nonstop into the mind and heart, informing the “listener” of who she is, what he does, and what others think about him/her.
In the quiet moments of your child’s life, what are the thoughts he has about himself?
What does the voice inside your child’s head say?
You are a worthwhile person
You are lazy
You are smart
You are handsome
You are stupid
You are so careless
You are clumsy
You are ugly
You are a great helper
You are fun to be around
You’re a wimp
You are stubborn
You are needed in this family
You can’t do anything right
You’re really messy
The Voice inside your child’s head is constantly delivering messages. What is it saying?
The internal voice everyone hears is powerful. That power builds up or tears down. The internal voice defines a child’s self-perception and consequently, his/her life.
How did those voices get there?
Parents are often unaware of the power they wield in defining the self-perception their child develops. In powerful ways, the repeated messages spoken in childhood become “The Voice” inside a child’s head long into adulthood.
The “voice” inside a child’s head speaks powerfully into the heart of your child but that voice didn’t start out there.
At times, it’s amazing how carless, insensitive, and unwise we can be as parents, commenting on some negative behavior to a child or to a third party in the child’s presence.
Not long ago, I heard a parent of a toddler declare in the child’s presence, “He is just really stubborn.” It wasn’t the first time I had heard that and other similar statements.
Like any message repeatedly delivered to the heart of a child, it will become the dominant reality – the narrative – that child lives in.
I’m just stubborn. It’s what I do. It’s who I am.
Words matter so much.
And those little boys & girls . . . they’re really attentive, even when it seems like they aren’t listening. What they hear repeatedly, eventually they believe about themselves. The tape – that message – The Voice plays over and over again.
Dad & Mom, what “Voice” will you be placing in your child’s head tomorrow, through the messages you are speaking to his/her heart today?
If you would benefit from some suggestions on positive messages to speak into the life of your child, Click Here for a list of positive affirmations every child wants to hear.
Matt Jacobson is a biblical marriage coach and founder of FaithfulMan.com a biblical marriage, parenting, and discipleship ministry providing written and audio teaching, as well as couples marriage coaching. He is the co-host (with his wife, Lisa) of Faithful Life Podcast and is author of the bestseller, 100 Ways to Love Your Wife. Matt is pastor of Tumalo Bible Fellowship and is married to Lisa, founder of Club31Women.com (they have 8 kids!).