After all these years, she’s still my bride, my lover, my friend. I think the world of Lisa. She is my world but there’s something I had to learn about her, about marriage, about the responsibility of caring for a woman’s heart.
Everyone who knows Lisa sees what I see – a capable, godly, smart, kind woman who is strong for others. But, they don’t see everything I see – a grown woman who is vulnerable, needing protection, love, care, and encouragement. Lisa is a woman whose heart is under attack from the voice of discouragement, condemnation, and inadequacy (sound familiar?). She’s a wonderful wife, mother, friend, and a thousand other positive things but “the voice” doesn’t care about all that and it will never stop. This voice can be resisted, but it’s never too far away, seeking to devour all the good God has done in and through her.
It’s in times like these Lisa needs to hear another powerful voice – my voice – what I think of her. My deep feelings as her husband are not enough. She needs to hear and feel my words of affirmation in her heart. She needs to know my opinion – what I think of her. Pointing my wife to the Truth is one of my responsibilities as a husband.
Your wife is no different. She wants to know what you think – but she especially wants to know what you think . . . of her. Do you value her? Care how she feels? Respect her? Honor her? Feel close to her? Need her?
As husbands, we can think and feel all these things deeply and still never say them . . . never tell her how we feel about her.
Remember, those other convincing voices that tear down and diminish her will never be silent – the voice inside your wife’s head speaking from every clothing advertisement – the voice calling from every corner of society – “You’re not good enough” . . . “You don’t measure up” . . . “You’re to much this” . . . “You’re not enough that.”
But your voice is powerful, too, and far more important to your wife’s heart than anything this world has to say. Which is why it’s important for you to use your power to speak affirming words into your wife’s heart today, tomorrow and every day God gives you together.
Do this and you will discover what every happy, fulfilled husband has learned:
The husband who sincerely and consistently fills his wife’s heart with affirming words of love soon discovers that she returns to him far more than he ever poured into her soul.
***EXCITING NEWS*** Lisa and I are passionate about the awesome marriage God has for you and your spouse if you will follow His ways. This is why we are are super excited to share with you our NEW BOOKS RELEASING TODAY!
We hope both of these books — 100 Words of Affirmation Your Husband Needs to Hearand 100 Words of Affirmation Your Wife Needs to Hear (sold separately, or together as a bundle!) — will encourage and inspire your own relationship with your spouse.
Our new books aren’t just theory but show how we “do” marriage. These books are, literally, a window into the relationship we have and how we walk out our marriage, day-to-day. These new books are designed to encourage and equip you in your own marriage.
Every one of us has tremendous power to either build others up or tear them down through the words we speak every day, and nowhere is this more evident than in our marriages.
Are you being purposeful in how you use the power of your words to speak encouragement, strength, and love–breathing life into the heart of your spouse? Or are careless words having a negative impact on your marriage and on the heart of the one you love most?
We want you and your spouse to discover the powerful ways you can build one another up in love with the words that you choose to say every day–words that every husband and wife need to hear. These marriage books offer you 100 Things to say to your husband or wife that deeply encourage, affirm, and inspire.
Start speaking these words into each other’s lives and watch your spouse – and your relationship – transform before your eyes! Get your copies right here – 100 Words of Affirmation Bundle
Matt Jacobson is a biblical marriage coach and founder of FaithfulMan.com a biblical marriage, parenting, and discipleship ministry providing written and audio teaching, as well as couples marriage coaching. He is the co-host (with his wife, Lisa) of Faithful Life Podcast and is author of the bestseller, 100 Ways to Love Your Wife. Matt is pastor of Tumalo Bible Fellowship and is married to Lisa, founder of Club31Women.com (they have 8 kids!).