There’s More Room in a Broken Heart (God’s use of the pain we live through)

There’s More Room in a Broken Heart (God’s use of the pain we live through)
November 15, 2016 Matthew L. Jacobson

Every morning since he was about 8, my son Dauntless goes out to the chicken coop to collect the eggs. But, this morning was different. He came into the house with a bowl of eggs, shell, and runny yellow yolks all mixed together in a slimy mess, with bits of egg running down his trembling hands. He tripped on the way back to the house.

Brokenness isn’t beautiful. Broken things aren’t beautiful. And, a broken heart definitely isn’t beautiful. 

We feel the searing pain of every false smile, faithless friend, disappointment in a spouse, and the hard injustice we see on every side. Life is filled with broken things and, if we’re honest, most of them are on the inside of that person we see in the mirror every morning.

Instinctively, we know there is something better, something whole that life was intended to deliver, but somewhere those plans were destroyed and we live in the aftermath, piecing together disparate parts that don’t fit together so well. And where is the purpose in all that?

Some people speak as if brokenness is beautiful, as if life was intended to be a cubist painting – identifiable as “life” but chunked up, chipped and badly distorted, like a basket of eggs handled by a carless child. A basket of fresh eggs smashed to pieces from a fall is not a good thing. Any child will tell you that.

“You have cancer”, “Your child is severely brain damaged”, “He was killed in a car accident” “Your husband has been cheating on you”, “Your unmarried daughter is pregnant”…. Brokenness is not beautiful. It’s ugly, lonely, disfigured, painful, and perverse.

The mistake is to believe there is no purpose in our pain – that broken things can have no value.

The Creator of all that was right and good (before it was corrupted by sin) says that the worst thing that has happened to you He will use for good. . . . if you let Him. Romans 8:28 assures us of God’s use of our broken places – And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.

Our journey is our own but the human experience is universal, which is why the next time you encounter someone, you can rest assured they are filled with broken places, too, and the good that God brought into existence from the pain you’ve suffered just might be the grace and understanding heart you have for your fellow traveller. 

There’s more room in a broken heart and sometimes God has to break our hearts to make room for others.

Brokenness hurts, sending shards of pain throughout our life. Who could want that? Brokenness exacts a high cost but it can also be of great worth in God’s hands. The value of our own brokenness is seen in God’s use of it in the lives of others.

Life has forced you to pay a heavy price but will you receive the value of your brokenness? Will you receive what God has in store for the worst things that have happened to you, allowing Him to bring peace to your heart and good to the lives of others from all the pain, shame, ugliness, and heartache?

. . . . Casting all your care upon Him; for he cares for you. 1 Peter 5:7

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  1. Monique 6 days ago

    Another excellent article. I needed that. I’m really hurt and upset I feel like i should have followed my first mind and stayed away from marriage. I’ll just be patient and wait on the purpose for my brokenness.

  2. Erin 2 months ago

    Beautiful post Matthew! Thank you so much!

  3. Rebecca L Jones 1 year ago

    This is a beautiful post. It reminded me of something I once read in Christian dream interpretation, eggs representing promises. God never breaks a promise. Jesus even says if ask for an egg you won’t get a snake. The only beauty in brokenness is the way He restores us, and the beauty of the sacrifice He made to get us there.

  4. Evelyn Bray 1 year ago

    So very true, though easier said than done. It does really help to have a purpose to help you through. In our second year of marriage we lost twins half way through the pregnancy. Through that ordeal God led me to write a devotional on suffering that was just published last week. I would never have thought that 4 years ago anything good could come from that. It is definitely a process going from broken to useful.

    My bible study this morning asked what trials I am going through and how God can use it. As far as my marriage goes, I really don’t know, but it’s not over. Guess we’ll see when we get there.

  5. CJ 1 year ago

    Trying so very hard to allow God to mold me and shape me during the most turbulent time of my life. Have dealt with numerous bouts of unemployment, bankruptcy and finding out my wife had an emotional affair with a man in our church over the past few years.

    My heart is just devastated as I try to find peace and comfort in God daily. Still working on finding my passion in life and find a job that will allow me to pursue this as I am currently in a dead-end position that I really hate going to every morning.

    Still trying to process forgiveness and reconcile with my wife for the past year-plus as we try to put the pieces of our 20-plus year marriage back together, form some sort of new foundation and pray that God will redeem this and we can take it back from the enemy that wants nothing more than to see us divorce and devastate our three children.

    Every day is hard. Every breath is hard. Just wanting to some day enjoy some peace and joy in Christ!

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