Tag: wife

Just Because You’re Right Doesn’t Mean You’re not Destroying Your Marriage

Sometimes being right . . . insisting on how right we are . . . is very wrong. But, we love being “right” don’t we? In the midst of an intense discussion (argument!) about something, we feel the surge of adrenaline when besting the other person, and who doesn’t love winning? Hey, the facts were…
Is It Wise to Keep Some Things From Your Spouse?

Sometimes, I just want to be left alone. Sounds a bit selfish but I had work to do and chance conversations with strangers was on the bottom of my list. It was an unlikely place for a “chance” encounter – the hidden alcove at the brake shop I trust to work on my truck. Three…
Are You Destroying or Building Trust in Your Marriage?

Spending money on vehicles . . . it’s one of my least favorite things to do. It was an unlikely place for a “chance” encounter – the hidden alcove at the brake shop I trust to work on my truck. Three feet wide, five feet deep – perfect. I chose that spot because today, I…
The Indispensable Husband . . . and how he defeats the Voices Tearing Down His Wife

Hello. Maybe we’ve never met formally but, you’ve bumped into me a time or two. In fact, you can’t avoid me because I’m everywhere. My name is 21st Century Culture and I’ve got a lot to say to a lot of different people but let me start with what I like to say to wives and…
Read Your Own Mail and Stop Focusing on What Your Husband/Wife Isn’t Doing

How weird would it be to walk to your neighbor’s house with a letter of his that you had read, and begin telling him what the letter said he needed to do? Not much good is coming from that conversation. Everyone recognizes doing such a thing is just wrong . . . everyone except many…
Will the Spouse Who Wants to Feel Valued and Appreciated Please Identify Yourself?

If you happen by the Jacobson house some day and we’re all in the kitchen clamoring like robin chicks waiting for worms, it’s a pretty safe bet that another batch of Lisa’s famous wheat bread is almost ready to slice and spread with warm butter. A long time ago, Lisa determined to produce The Best…
Are You Speaking the Language of Unity In Marriage Every Day?

She was like a fresh-cut flower standing in a glass vase without water, wilting by degrees as her animated husband held the room with his winning personality. They had a stable marriage, good family, good life, but if you didn’t know all that, you’d think he was single. “My bedroom . . .” “My plans…
How to Win Big in Marriage Conflict by Going Soft

Sometimes the simplest, most profound truth is the hardest to live by. And, so it is with ‘A soft answer turns away wrath’. A disagreement begins and before long, the house is on fire. Marriage conflict, why does it happen? We know it’s destructive but the truth matters, doesn’t it? After all, the reason we’re…
Sex: The One Chore No Wife Should Ever Do {and how husbands can make sure they stop doing it}

Many wives feel the work facing them is never done. For the diligent manager of her home, she lives this reality every day. It’s nonstop. And then there’s sex. Unless you’re wealthy enough to pay others to do the work, the old adage, A woman’s work is never done, is something most wives feel…
Men Have Boxes, Women Have One Big Ball of String – Getting Communication Right!

Marriage Communication . . . it’s a funny thing. Okay, sometimes it’s not so funny. You love each other. You both speak english reasonably well. It’s not like your trying to order lunch from a food stall in the old market place in Marrakech, Morocco. So why does it keep happening? You start a conversation about something…
Why I Continue to Date My Girlfriend, Even Though I’m Married.

We live in a world where clerks in virtually any store upon meeting you for the first time will talk to you like you’ve been close friends for about thirty years. Like the other day at the bank. I don’t normally go to this branch but it was convenient and I needed to do a…
Ask Her and She’ll Tell You What Most Men Never Learn About Their Wives

To have an “epic” marriage, all you have to do is want it, right? Not exactly. Did I have stars in my eyes when it came to marriage? More like lodestars. The idea of a marriage one degree short of stellar didn’t even occur to me. I planned on being the best husband this side of…