Tag: relationships

Are You a Single Christian Man? Should You Be Faithful to Your Wife Before You Meet Her?

When discipling single men, eventually I ask, “Are you faithful to your wife?” They look quizzically at me and explain, “But, I”m not married.” “So, it’s okay to be unfaithful to your wife before you meet her?” “Well, I’m not sleeping around.” “So, that’s the standard? No sex before marriage? What about all the stuff…
How to Stay Close and Connected in These Busy (and troubled) Times

I have to admit, this year I haven’t put in the time and my garden looks a bit like Jurassic Park . . . minus the dinosaurs. Although there is one rabbit that keeps evading us and chewing on everything. Obviously he doesn’t know how much I like Tarragon Rabbit in cracked pepper cream sauce!…
Kiss Her Like It’s The First Time, Every Time

Do you remember when you kissed each other the first time? Lisa and I sure do . . . not because it was an epic, romantic kiss. It was more like, “Husband and Wife do Stand Up Comedy!” Our front teeth clunked together like two blocks of wood! At first, we weren’t sure what happened.…
Just Because You’re Right Doesn’t Mean You’re not Destroying Your Marriage

Sometimes being right . . . insisting on how right we are . . . is very wrong. But, we love being “right” don’t we? In the midst of an intense discussion (argument!) about something, we feel the surge of adrenaline when besting the other person, and who doesn’t love winning? Hey, the facts were…
How to Find and Marry the Perfect Woman – a letter to young men

Dear Son, Every young man wants to marry someone amazing – the perfect woman. I’m sure you’ve spent a lot of time thinking about your future wife – just what kind of person you hope she is. And you’re not asking for much, right? Just someone who is, Loving Kind Beautiful Thoughtful Intelligent Hardworking Funny…
Has Divorce Ever Crossed Your Mind?

Sometimes, what we know is true and how our spouse makes us feel collide in spectacular fashion. Make your wife angry and she’s liable to say anything. Back your husband into a corner and the marriage is in for some serious damage. Is this sinful? Yes. Is this the way mature Christians should act? No.…
Men Have Boxes, Women Have One Big Ball of String – Getting Communication Right!

Marriage Communication . . . it’s a funny thing. Okay, sometimes it’s not so funny. You love each other. You both speak english reasonably well. It’s not like your trying to order lunch from a food stall in the old market place in Marrakech, Morocco. So why does it keep happening? You start a conversation about something…
Why Christian Kids Should Save Kissing (and other things) for Marriage.

Get a group of Christian teens together and sooner or later the subject of all things physical prior to marriage is going to surface . . . What should you tell them? “How far should we go?” or “Is kissing okay?” Here’s what’s not okay when it comes to the subject of premarital anything: Parents…
How to Establish Boundaries with the InLaws and Outlaws this Holiday Season

The holiday season is supposed to be a time of joy, laughter, and shared fellowship around the table with people you love and enjoy. For many, it just doesn’t turn out that way. There’s often dread of the holiday season because with it comes the obligation to spend time with that special class of people…
In This Together: how to win against pornography in your marriage

One drive by the “Victoria doesn’t have any Secrets” store will tell you that the world has changed. But, we don’t need to be told (or look at the soft porn on display in their windows). We just need to turn on our computers and the satanic inspired on-demand world of pornography is one click…
What God Wants From You When Your Spouse is Wounding Your Marriage

It’s easier to do the right thing when our spouse does the right thing. We can usually respond correctly in those circumstances, can’t we? It’s not rocket science, it’s it’s just human nature. You be good to me and I’ll be good to you. What about when your husband or wife isn’t being good to you…
Storm-Proof Your Marriage

Who anticipates a season of drought followed by brushfires that strip the vegetation from the surrounding hills? This is the reality facing many in southern California. After the smoke cleared people took a breath. Thankfully, the worst was over . . . until it started to rain. No longer able to absorb water, the barren…