My way is right! Not hard to understand . . . it just is!
Maybe we never say these words but often in marriage, we don’t have to. It’s the unmistakable message our husband/wife gets after discussing an issue, preference, or a way of doing something. And, how does that make you feel? Helpless? And, how do you respond? Anger, frustration . . . or do you pray when your spouse digs in?
I’d love to be able to say I’ve never communicated this to Lisa, but I have. Not because I wanted to. Not because I tried to. It’s just what she understood my position to be the time she asked me not to do something she didn’t like and I had no intention of changing.
Many times in marriage it’s not a sin issue – just something we want the other person to start, stop, or change. And, that’s what it was with us not long ago . . . but I wasn’t having any of it! Lisa calls it my “brick wall mode” and she felt helpless.
What do you do when you want your spouse to change – again, not a sin issue under discussion here, just something important you want to be different – and it’s not happening . . . what do you do then? Does this sound like a situation in your marriage, right now, and your feeling like there’s nothing you can do?
There’s a powerful place you can go, yet so many husbands and wives forget they are not helpless. The inclination may be to fight, argue, and become resentful or bitter, but there is a far better way. Why is it that taking our concerns to the Lord in prayer is often a last resort instead of our first move? The power of prayer in your marriage – that’s the topic of Marriage Weekend Edition of FAITHFUL LIFE podcast: Are You Missing Out on the Power of Prayer in Your Marriage? When God is invited in, change happens . . . and we often discover it isn’t only our spouse where He’s bringing a beautiful change! Join us today.
Do you want to build positive communication patterns in your marriage? Speaking words of Affirmation into your husbands/wife’s heart each day is a beautiful way to communicate in every marriage! These books are available right now!
We hope both of these books — 100 Words of Affirmation Your Husband Needs to Hearand 100 Words of Affirmation Your Wife Needs to Hear (sold separately, or together as a bundle!) — will encourage and inspire your own relationship with your spouse.
Our new books aren’t just theory but show how we “do” marriage. These books are, literally, a window into the relationship we have and how we walk out our marriage, day-to-day. These new books are designed to encourage and equip you in your own marriage.
Every one of us has tremendous power to either build others up or tear them down through the words we speak every day, and nowhere is this more evident than in our marriages.
Are you being purposeful in how you use the power of your words to speak encouragement, strength, and love–breathing life into the heart of your spouse? Or are careless words having a negative impact on your marriage and on the heart of the one you love most?
We want you and your spouse to discover the powerful ways you can build one another up in love with the words that you choose to say every day–words that every husband and wife need to hear. These marriage books offer you 100 Things to say to your husband or wife that deeply encourage, affirm, and inspire.
Start speaking these words into each other’s lives and watch your spouse – and your relationship – transform before your eyes! Get your copies right here – 100 Words of Affirmation Bundle
Friends, would you consider supporting the effort to spread the message of FAITHFUL LIFE podcast, FaithfulMan.com, Club31Women.com? The generosity of faithful ministry partners helps us to continue to offer these resources. Here is what we’re asking:
We are deeply grateful,
Matt & Lisa
Matt Jacobson is a biblical marriage coach and founder of FaithfulMan.com a biblical marriage, parenting, and discipleship ministry providing written and audio teaching, as well as couples marriage coaching. He is the co-host (with his wife, Lisa) of Faithful Life Podcast and is author of the bestseller, 100 Ways to Love Your Wife. Matt is pastor of Tumalo Bible Fellowship and is married to Lisa, founder of Club31Women.com (they have 8 kids!).