Category: Marriage

In This Together: how to win against pornography in your marriage

One drive by the “Victoria doesn’t have any Secrets” store will tell you that the world has changed. But, we don’t need to be told (or look at the soft porn on display in their windows). We just need to turn on our computers and the satanic inspired on-demand world of pornography is one click…
What God Wants From You When Your Spouse is Wounding Your Marriage

It’s easier to do the right thing when our spouse does the right thing. We can usually respond correctly in those circumstances, can’t we? It’s not rocket science, it’s it’s just human nature. You be good to me and I’ll be good to you. What about when your husband or wife isn’t being good to you…
The Powerful Choice of Biblical Submission

Submit. It’s the dirty little word that packs a powerful punch in 21st Century Christian religion. “Everyone knows the Apostle Paul was a male chauvinist PIG!” Person: Senior Editor Place: Major conservative evangelical Christian publisher Editorial Dept. discussion of marriage manuscript from international speaker/author (not long ago) A moment of (stunned) silence followed. Much emotional pain,…
10 Relationship Killers Wise Couples Avoid

Dangerous, destructive behavior in marriage is frequently treated with ‘kid gloves’. Too often it’s not taken seriously until it’s too late. Where do you stand? Have you gotten comfortable with certain behaviors in your marriage that used to be called ‘sin’? Question: Could you stand up in a room and say, without embarrassment, “We’re not perfect…
When Life Breaks Your Heart – Finding Hope & Grace to Face the Unexpected

At some point, the life we planned on and reality collide. Our first several years of marriage were pretty much free of serious hardship – oh, things happened that we thought were difficult but the first real challenge? That would be the birth of our Little Sparrow. Few aspirations match the hopes parents have for…
How Can I Get Him To Truly Listen To My Heart?

How often does it happen? She starts to talk about something that’s bothering her. She’s been thinking about it all day . . . something she’s carefully considered, something important to her. He sits there, looking her direction, nodding his head and doesn’t pick up the thread of the conversation . . . changes the…
Any Couple can Kiss Fighting Goodbye . . . and You should too.

Living near the Oregon Coast, sooner or later you’re going to see it – two seagulls fighting over a dead fish. It’s a lot of squawking, biting, flapping, snapping, and tugging. But as soon as you get near, they take wing and float peacefully on the breeze as if nothing happened. If you hadn’t seen…
a short story about wholeness freedom and forgiveness

I wish Lisa didn’t have so many opportunities to forgive me over the years. Oh, we trade places sometimes, but when it comes to needing forgiveness, there are a lot more entries in my ledger than in hers. Take this morning. We’re all sitting around the fireplace talking of various things and I said something that…
Five Powerful Precautions for Faithfulness in Marriage

What man or woman intends to cheat on his/her spouse after the wedding day? On that day, it’s smiles vows and anticipation of a great future together. Even so, many choose this destructive path — and for what? A few moments of self-gratification? Was it worth it? The Bible does say that sin is pleasurable. . . for a season.…
The Secret to an Excellent Marriage

The wedding – great memories, a lot of fun – but, that was a long time ago. Now, there’s marriage. An excellent, satisfying, rewarding marriage . . . sounds good, doesn’t it? It also sounds like an endangered species. Do you know many Christian couples enjoying one? Isn’t the Church supposed to provide the example…
When You’re Busy Loving Each Other There’s Less Time For Temptation

That Christians and Christianity have the reputation for being a little “up tight” when it comes to the subject of sex should make everyone laugh, it really should. Talk about unbiblical! First of all, there was a garden, where God placed a naked man and woman . . . husband and wife, and said all…
He Wants Far More Than You Think – Why Sex Is Never Enough For A Good Man

Listening to the popular media, you come away with the idea that there are about four good men left on planet earth. It’s not true. There are millions of Good Men – men who love their wives and kids; men who are faithful to their families and the God they serve; noble men who do…