Category: Marriage

Do You Consistently Pray with Your Wife/Husband?

New beginnings . . . that’s what many of us are thinking the the start of a new year, after a milestone birthday, or when you realize that you aren’t on track as you should be – How will we make this year different/better than the past? How can we make this a new habit…
Has Divorce Ever Crossed Your Mind?

Sometimes, what we know is true and how our spouse makes us feel collide in spectacular fashion. Make your wife angry and she’s liable to say anything. Back your husband into a corner and the marriage is in for some serious damage. Is this sinful? Yes. Is this the way mature Christians should act? No.…
Read Your Own Mail and Stop Focusing on What Your Husband/Wife Isn’t Doing

How weird would it be to walk to your neighbor’s house with a letter of his that you had read, and begin telling him what the letter said he needed to do? Not much good is coming from that conversation. Everyone recognizes doing such a thing is just wrong . . . everyone except many…
Will the Spouse Who Wants to Feel Valued and Appreciated Please Identify Yourself?

If you happen by the Jacobson house some day and we’re all in the kitchen clamoring like robin chicks waiting for worms, it’s a pretty safe bet that another batch of Lisa’s famous wheat bread is almost ready to slice and spread with warm butter. A long time ago, Lisa determined to produce The Best…
Are You Speaking the Language of Unity In Marriage Every Day?

She was like a fresh-cut flower standing in a glass vase without water, wilting by degrees as her animated husband held the room with his winning personality. They had a stable marriage, good family, good life, but if you didn’t know all that, you’d think he was single. “My bedroom . . .” “My plans…
How to Find Contentment When It’s Missing From Your Marriage

Many men and women are discontent in their marriages. Are you one of them? Maybe you’re not discontent now but, could it creep into your relationship? Over time, we can stack up our list of minor and major grievances against our spouse like cord wood. One stick at a time . . . a few months…
How to Win Big in Marriage Conflict by Going Soft

Sometimes the simplest, most profound truth is the hardest to live by. And, so it is with ‘A soft answer turns away wrath’. A disagreement begins and before long, the house is on fire. Marriage conflict, why does it happen? We know it’s destructive but the truth matters, doesn’t it? After all, the reason we’re…
Sex: The One Chore No Wife Should Ever Do {and how husbands can make sure they stop doing it}

Many wives feel the work facing them is never done. For the diligent manager of her home, she lives this reality every day. It’s nonstop. And then there’s sex. Unless you’re wealthy enough to pay others to do the work, the old adage, A woman’s work is never done, is something most wives feel…
Should You Confess to Your Spouse? (or Spare Her/Him the Pain?)

Does it make sense to confess your sin to your spouse and drag him/her through all the pain or should just keep your sin between you and God? What should you tell your wife (or your husband) about the struggle you’re having? Anything? Faithfulness in marriage cuts both directions but for the Christian, the Bible lays the…
7 Keys For Having a Healthy Argument With the One You Love

It wasn’t exactly sound advice but, you had to admit, he had a point. His 75yr old bushy eyes twinkled as he leaned across the table and said to me, “I learned an important piece of marriage wisdom a long time ago. When you’re having an argument with your wife, as soon as you are convinced…
Men Have Boxes, Women Have One Big Ball of String – Getting Communication Right!

Marriage Communication . . . it’s a funny thing. Okay, sometimes it’s not so funny. You love each other. You both speak english reasonably well. It’s not like your trying to order lunch from a food stall in the old market place in Marrakech, Morocco. So why does it keep happening? You start a conversation about something…
Don’t allow Bitterness to Grow In Your Marriage {the absolute necessity of cleaning wounds}

Like dangerous, infected wounds, the worst situations, deepest problems, and harshest conflicts often start out very small. How did they become so big . . . so destructive? How did our marriage get to this place? You would have thought I’d been bitten by a cobra or by some exotic spider. Not quite – it was only…