Category: Marriage

Just Because You’re Right Doesn’t Mean You’re not Destroying Your Marriage

Sometimes being right . . . insisting on how right we are . . . is very wrong. But, we love being “right” don’t we? In the midst of an intense discussion (argument!) about something, we feel the surge of adrenaline when besting the other person, and who doesn’t love winning? Hey, the facts were…
THE MYTH (LIE) OF INCOMPATIBILITY IN MARRIAGE – The Problem Isn’t That You’re Incompatible . . . So What Is The Problem?

The power of what you believe will change the course of your life. So, you’d better make sure you believe the truth because lies have just as much power to affect every aspect of your life as does the truth. Lies matter. If we believe them long enough, they become our Truth, regardless of what is…
How to Find and Marry the Perfect Woman – a letter to young men

Dear Son, Every young man wants to marry someone amazing – the perfect woman. I’m sure you’ve spent a lot of time thinking about your future wife – just what kind of person you hope she is. And you’re not asking for much, right? Just someone who is, Loving Kind Beautiful Thoughtful Intelligent Hardworking Funny…
Is It Wise to Keep Some Things From Your Spouse?

Sometimes, I just want to be left alone. Sounds a bit selfish but I had work to do and chance conversations with strangers was on the bottom of my list. It was an unlikely place for a “chance” encounter – the hidden alcove at the brake shop I trust to work on my truck. Three…
The Mistake Christian Husbands and Wives Should Avoid in the Bedroom

It’s natural to think that your body belongs to you. After all, you’re the one living in it, right? But natural and biblical thinking often conflict. According to the Bible, your body (if you’re a married Christian) has two other owners. Don’t you know that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost .…
The One Thing About Marriage That Should Make Every Husband Tremble

In my experience, there’s far too much talk in Christian circles about how wives need to submit to their husbands and far too few husbands shaking in their boots with terror at how God said He wants them to treat their wives. An overstatement? Maybe, but Jesus said, “If you love me, keep my commandments.”…
Romance: Dangerous Territory for Men . . . but, we can learn from you with a little help

For many husbands, a conversation about romance is like being in a foreign country and trying to ask someone on the street where the nearest bathroom is. It’s embarrassing and awkward. But maybe your husband writes love poems to you like this? She walks in beauty, like the night Of cloudless climes and starry skies; And…
Are You Destroying or Building Trust in Your Marriage?

Spending money on vehicles . . . it’s one of my least favorite things to do. It was an unlikely place for a “chance” encounter – the hidden alcove at the brake shop I trust to work on my truck. Three feet wide, five feet deep – perfect. I chose that spot because today, I…
Spouses Who Trust Each Other and the Love They Enjoy

It was an unlikely place for a “chance” encounter – the hidden alcove at the brake shop I trust to work on my truck. Three feet wide, five feet deep – perfect. I chose that spot because today, I didn’t want to talk to anybody. This is a great space to work, no distractions. No…
Do You Use The Power of a Soft Answer in Your Marriage?

When it comes to marriage, Lisa and I basically walk on water, never a harsh word passing between us. Isn’t that great?! So, being the picture of godly self-control and gracious communication, what follows applies to everyone else. . . . and, if you believe that and are interested in owning your own star, I…
The Indispensable Husband . . . and how he defeats the Voices Tearing Down His Wife

Hello. Maybe we’ve never met formally but, you’ve bumped into me a time or two. In fact, you can’t avoid me because I’m everywhere. My name is 21st Century Culture and I’ve got a lot to say to a lot of different people but let me start with what I like to say to wives and…
Why You Should Always Wear Your Wedding Ring

How important can a wedding ring be in a society that’s all about individuality and self-expression? It’s a fun part of the wedding, especially for women, but does it really matter? And for many others, isn’t a wedding ring just an outdated symbol of ownership? I knew a man once who regularly removed his wedding…