Category: Marriage

A Simple Plan for Building a Closer, Deeper Marriage This Year

This is a picture of Lisa and me at our new home . . . okay, not quite . . . it’s from a few years back when we visited Chatsworth. But, we did move to a new place (doesn’t look quite like this and we don’t have to bother with all that staff!)…
How to Deal With the Annoying, Silly Preferences of Your Spouse

Unless you’re referring to someone with a frontal lobotomy, every person (even the ones who pretend they don’t) has some preferences. They’re not “right”’ or “wrong” – they just are. You’re not picky, are you? . . . but, your spouse, now that’s another matter entirely! He / She has an opinion about . .…
How Can Your Wife Have Confidence that You will Always be a FAITHFUL MAN?

The afternoon . . . an evening . . . a few days with the guys on that trip . . . deployed for six months . . . in the shower by yourself in the morning . . . Sooner or later, you’re going to be alone. . . . and, you’re going to…
How To Win and Keep Your Husband’s Trust

He may be a quiet accountant, a fearless fire fighter, an expert plumber, a smart lawyer, a good doctor, a successful salesman, a faithful farmer, or any number of other professions, but one need transcends all of his character traits and career choices: He needs to be able to trust you with all of his…
Why Your Wife Will Never Accept a Substitute for Your Heart

He was a workaholic and a sportsaholic when he wasn’t working. She waited. And then there was his beloved restoration project of that ‘65 Mustang. She smiled. “It looks nice” she would say . . . as she waited. Months went by of leaving home early, working late, and then working hard on that golf swing on…
Secure Wife – Insecure Wife . . . which one do you have?

Does the responsibility of bringing security to the marriage relationship go both ways? Is this a matter for husband and wife? Of course, yes. For the Christian husband, however, the Bible establishes him as holding an office of special responsibility before God for how he leads, nurtures, and cherishes his wife. Wives don’t get a…
Do You Have A Normal Christian Marriage? Is that Good or Bad?

Weddings and awkward moments aren’t supposed to go together but when the groom faints and falls on the pastor, the top tier of the cake lands on the floor, or the bride falls into the water . . . it’s awkward! . . . like at the wedding last week . . . I didn’t…
Should You Remove the Armor from Your Heart and Fully Forgive?

Real forgiveness in many marriages is in short supply these days . . . which makes sense because who in their right mind wants to set themselves up for having their heart stepped on . . . again? Have you ever struggled with forgiveness? Forgiving someone who has hurt you is unnatural. It doesn’t feel…
If Marriage Won’t Keep A Heart From Wandering, What Will?

Wandering . . . nothing is more natural to the undisciplined heart – and it doesn’t have to be the big stuff like porn or adultery. Many couples have found themselves on opposite sides of a canyon in their marriage for many lessor reasons. Oh, we’re still married. We’re not running headlong away from our…
There’s More Room in a Broken Heart (God’s use of the pain we live through)

Every morning since he was about 8, my son Dauntless goes out to the chicken coop to collect the eggs. But, this morning was different. He came into the house with a bowl of eggs, shell, and runny yellow yolks all mixed together in a slimy mess, with bits of egg running down his trembling…
The Secret Elite Golfers Know That Will Greatly Improve Your Marriage

He wasn’t a Samurai Warrior but in a one-one-one battle, with all his flailing at the ball on the driving range with that golf club, he would have done alright! With each irregular swing, with each divot behind the ball deeper than the last, the embarrassment and frustration grew until one day 20 years ago…
Are You Making This Easy-to-Avoid MARRIAGE MISTAKE? (small change – massive positive impact!)

Writing about marriage means you’ve basically got it all down and get it perfect every time . . . not a single marriage mistake, right? I think we all know the answer to that question! And, so it was, just a few days ago, I had to be reminded of something so basic, I laughed…