It didn’t matter how he found out. What mattered was, he did find out and now all there was to do was pick up the disastrous pieces, divorce his wife, and move on. What else could be the result of discovering that your best friend slept with your wife . . . in your own home . . . in your own bed . . . while you were away on business?
Total shock, the pain of betrayal, anger . . . then blood-red rage. The “friend” left town, believing (rightly) that his life was in jeopardy. His emotions ran the spectrum and took months to level out . . . but that didn’t change the only possible outcome. It was going to be divorce. What else could it be? Some things just can’t be fixed, can they?
Where is your marriage, today? Everyone begins married life with great expectations and the best of intentions. Some couples seem to have fewer challenges than others, but for just about everyone, at some point you’re going to come to the realization: I have a difficult marriage.
And it doesn’t take the big, marriage-ending challenges to get there. Disagreements, selfishness, pressures . . . life has about a million ways to cause you to grow apart, and to grow colder toward each other, day by day. Before long, patterns set in that are the exact opposite of how God intended you to live as man and wife. They’re often things we know shouldn’t be – things that need to change – but we’ve become comfortable, complacent. Are you one of the many who have gotten used to negative, sinful ways of communicating with each other? Or, worse yet, just don’t believe that God could bring real change to your marriage and you’ve given up? You’ll stay married but in your heart, you know your marriage is less than half of what it could be.
Your circumstances might be really difficult but, are they as bad as the couple at the beginning of this article? This isn’t an invented story. These people are personal friends of mine and today, they’re loving life together. They didn’t divorce. They have a beautiful, loving, close, Redeemed marriage! And, if God can make beauty from ashes, can’t he Redeem your difficult marriage, too?
Why is it that people who call themselves “Christian” live as if God doesn’t quite have what it takes to redeem their marriage, completely? We believe He has Eternity well in hand, but the here-and-now . . . not so much. Jesus did a finished work on the cross but he can’t do a finished work in my marriage?
Jesus didn’t come to redeem most of you and part of your marriage. He came for it all!
Can God redeem a difficult marriage? Of course He can! Even if things have gone sideways and are a little or a lot beneath your expectations, God is the Redeemer. What is preventing His complete Work in every aspect of your married life? This is the discussion topic on the podcast. Join in and see what God may have for your marriage (or someone you know and can share this message with) today!
Matt and Lisa Jacobson, authors of 100 Ways to Love Your Husband and 100 Ways to Love Your Wife, are the hosts of a weekly podcast to talk about what it means to be a biblical Christian in marriage, parenting, church, and culture. Matt and Lisa offer deep encouragement, along with practical steps and true-life stories, as we grow in walking the faithful life together.
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Matt Jacobson is a biblical marriage coach and founder of FaithfulMan.com a biblical marriage, parenting, and discipleship ministry providing written and audio teaching, as well as couples marriage coaching. He is the co-host (with his wife, Lisa) of Faithful Life Podcast and is author of the bestseller, 100 Ways to Love Your Wife. Matt is pastor of Tumalo Bible Fellowship and is married to Lisa, founder of Club31Women.com (they have 8 kids!).